7 February 2024
Top tips for moving with children Before you move Whether you are moving down the road or to a completely different county, moving house can be confusing for children. Whatever age they are, they would have strong attachments to their surroundings as everything is familiar to them. To ensure they’re not worried or anxious about their new house and everything changing, you could: Let them know your plans to move house as soon as you can. Children need time to think and prepare for something like this. They will likely have questions for you so be ready for this, encourage them to talk about it and be positive with your answers. If you are unsure how to answer, tell them you will find out, making sure to get back to them with an answer. Let them know where you are going, when you are moving and why, again, making sure this information is all positive and exciting. Talk to them about the benefits of the house move. If they will be attending a new school, let them know about all of the new activities they can get involved in and any sports teams or clubs they could join. Make sure they are aware of what they will gain from this move. Younger children may like to do some roleplay to help them understand. Encourage them to ask questions about what they may be worried about. Show them the photos and videos of where you are moving to. If you are moving long distance, show them the route you have to take and what you may see along the way. It is a good idea to plan to move outside of term time if you have children at school age as this reduces the interruption to their schooling as they adjust to their new surroundings. This is a particularly good idea if they are changing schools so they’re not starting right in the middle of a term. However, doing this means holidays are a very busy time so it is best to ensure you are booked in early for removals. Stay positive about the move, even if the circumstances aren’t so. Try to keep any stressful conversations away from the children as much as possible as this may make them nervous. Get the children involved in planning for the new house. If you are buying new furniture, paint or accessories, ask them for their opinion. Let them plan their new bedroom. If you are moving long distance, plan for them to keep in touch with their friends. Older children could write an address book with the details of the friends they wish to stay in contact with. Let them say goodbye to those around them. Organise a going away party with friends and family to say goodbye. During the move Ask your removal company about packing services. You may struggle to fit packing in and around family life. Having a removal company come in to do your packing can be an affordable way of avoiding extra stress. If you want to do your own packing, make a plan of what you’ll need and when so you know what can be packed early and what has to be left. Try to keep organised as you go. Pack an essentials box. An essentials box allows you to keep everything you need to hand, and also pack an arrival bag for your first night. Let the children help you by choosing what they would like in it, things they use or will need on a day to day basis. Plus extra bits to keep them entertained. This can range from snacks and drinks to toys and books. If you pack a tablet, make sure their favourite shows are downloaded just in case there is no Wi-Fi setup yet. Make sure to have clean clothes and toiletries. Think about where the children will be. It is usually sensible to keep any children away from the house on moving day for both Health & Safety reasons and practical reasons but sometimes it is helpful by seeing what's happening around them. If yo u plan to keep the children with you, here are a few things to plan and think about: Plan for entertainment as they will need something to do for the day. Things like colouring books, games or their tablet, Older children could have age appropriate jobs to do such as cleaning, labelling boxes or unpacking their bedroom. If it is summer, make sure to have some outdoor toys and games for the new garden. Think about Health and Safety by letting your movers know there are children on site. Try to keep them away from the vans unless invited by the team to come and have a look. It is really important not to rush children on moving day. Although you may feel it is best to get everything packed and ready to go as quickly as possible, children can be emotional and may not accept the changes happening around them so easily. After the move W hen you have arrived at your new house, there is lots you can do to keep everyone, especially the children, positive about the changes and help them to settle in: Invite your new neighbours, including the children if they have them. Organise some games to encourage the children to get to know each other. Unpacking your items will help you to settle into your new routine. After you have unpacked the essentials, prioritise unpacking the children's things so they feel at home as quickly as possible. Let the children help set up their rooms, this will help them to feel more comfortable and excited. Ask them where they would like their furniture. Help your children make new friends by getting involved in the local community and school events. Make sure they stay in contact with their old friends too by writing letters or emails. Video calling is a great way to keep in touch with friends and makes them feel closer than they are if you’ve moved long distance. When you move house, it is very easy to let it change your routine as you fit in unpacking, decorating etc. However, it is important to make sure children have their routine still in place to keep them calm and happy. Moving house with children isn’t easy, but taking their needs into account and involving them will help clear some of the worries. They may even enjoy it!